There are so many clichés when it comes to finding true happiness, but it’s a search that never quite has an ending for many of us. However, there are ways to help find a degree of pleasure regardless of whatever else may be happening around you.
While the New Year is an excuse for many to rectify things in their life in the name of a New Year’s resolution, the idea of a few numbers shifting on a calendar shouldn’t necessarily be the catalyst required to make a change. Nevertheless, if you’ve decided this New Year will see a happier you, read on to find out how you can do this.
The importance of happiness
If you are content and happy with the state of your life, this will breed success and more happiness. Studies have shown that your state of mind, whether subconscious or not, will have a direct impact on the way in which you go about your daily business. If you project positivity to those around you and your outlook is positive, this can not only rub off on others but will also help you overcome whatever obstacles are in your way.
It’s all in the mind, as they say and those that are depressed or that get upset by even the most minor things end up under-achieving. They can even end up stuck in the same place in their life with no real aspirations to move forward.
There is nothing more important than retaining perspective. If you can take a step back and appreciate what you have but also look to the future with positivity then you’re doing well.
Top ten tips to improve your happiness
There are 10 core ideals that can help promote happiness in your life. With a conscious effort made to try to do all or some of these, you will find that you are on the way to enlightenment and happiness:
1. Remain optimistic
This is not blind faith; it’s just a case of finding the opportunities represented by a bad situation. An optimist will search for the good and use failure as an opportunity to learn and grow.
2. Eat and live healthy
We should be doing this anyway, but an active body creates high physical energy. This leads to a high mental and emotional energy, which in turn contributes to your spiritual energy. If all of these are intact, you are going to find it easy to be happy.
3. Be social and forge relationships
Those that are lonely are lonely are often the most unhappy. Social interaction is a must for a positive state of mind. As much as most of us enjoy our own company, if you are left to your own devices for long stretches of time you can sink into a state of insulation, meaning that it becomes harder to re-integrate. People can upset you, but most will certainly contribute towards happiness.
4. Forgive and forget
Those who bear grudges can often find that it plagues their mind for extended periods of time. If someone makes a mistake or does wrong by you, there isn’t much you can do about it. Move on as quickly as possible and look ahead. Dwelling on the past never got anyone anywhere.
5. Savour experiences
When you are enjoying yourself, whether it be on a holiday or a social occasion, savour it, appreciate and record it. Taking photographs has sadly become a way of convincing your followers on social media that you are having fun. What photos should be for is to refer to when trying to remember the good times you have had on a personal level.
6. Appreciate what you have
Showing gratitude for what we have or what we have been given is something that should be primary in our quest for happiness. If you don’t appreciate what you have, how can you possibly expect to experience any future happiness that may come your way?
7. Don’t over-think things
If you consistently play scenarios over and over in your head or think about what you could have done in a certain circumstance instead, you are consuming your mind with unnecessary negativity borne out of a mistake that should’ve been laid to rest moments after it occurred. There’s nothing you can change, so learn and move on.
8. Avoid comparisons
It’s a fact that there will always be somebody somewhere that is better than you at something. So many of us get bogged down with comparisons instead of focusing on ourselves. You can guarantee that they aren’t thinking about you, so why consider how you measure up against celebrities in magazines? You are beautiful in your own way. Don’t worry about others; focus on yourself.
9. Show kindness to others
The sense of enormous well-being garnered from helping an old man across the street, or running after someone to give them the cash they forgot to collect from the ATM is due to an increase in serotonin levels in our brain. These help us to feel good about ourselves. Show kindness always.
10. Focus on your goals
Setting targets on a daily basis, whether on a professional level or a personal level, is important. The sense of achievement at reaching the goals you have set will cultivate a positive mind frame and assist with overall happiness.
What can help you be happier?
While it is not suggested that material possessions can bring happiness in any way, there are certain items that we can consider contributory to happiness.
Happiness from Amazon US site
This is a guide to achieving the most important skill known to humans: learning to be happy. Written by a monk.View details
The Secrets of Happy Families from The Book Depository
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The Architecture of Happiness from The Book Depository
This book focuses on the environment in which we live on a daily basis and how certain aspects of the home can contribute to our state of mind.View details
Hardwiring Happiness from Amazon US site
All the answers are in here. We can learn why we often dwell on negativity and how to overcome this, among other interesting stuff.View details
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Who better to learn from than his holiness the Dalai Lama? This famous book answers all the questions that lead to true enlightenment.View details
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You can record a personal message for you or anyone else that takes toilet paper from this. What joy this could bring to one and all.View details
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Best retailers to help you be happier
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Happiness for a healthier you
Happiness also promotes a healthier body and mind. If you’re ravaged by unhappy thoughts you will often feel run down and stressed, which leads to other complications caused by not eating properly and not feeling motivated to exercise.
Finding happiness is a purely subjective topic. What pleases one person might be nothing short of a nightmare for another, so any study that tries to quantify ways in which to be happy will never be absolute in their coverage.
Having a healthy balance in every aspect of your life seems to hold the key to contentment. Also, trying to experience as much as this world has to offer is always going to inspire and please. We live in a beautiful world and there is so much on offer that it would be sad not to go out there and discover. Those that say ignorance is bliss are sadly mistaken. Knowledge and experience are the keys to enlightenment and to a healthy mind and a healthy mind promotes happiness.
To sum up a search that has been studied and documented since the dawn of time would be both an act of futility and an act of disrespect to those that have invested their life’s work in trying to assist those with issues that need to be resolved.
The truth is that happiness must be treated on a case-by-case basis. While some of the items and points raised in this piece can contribute towards a better state of mind, there is no one true answer that is relevant for everyone. Be positive and choose your own path to true happiness.Back to top