Divorce can be a traumatic event.
When a couple decides on a divorce in Australia there is no need to enter into a public court room slanging match with each party blaming the other for any number of faults. No need to hire a private detective to sneak around trying to catch one of the parties off guard. This is because Australia has adopted the principle of no-fault divorce. No fault divorce simply means that the court is no longer interested in the reasons why a couple want to separate and go their own way. The only grounds needed to be proven is that the marriage has irretrievably broken down. The marriage is considered to have irretrievably broken down if it is deemed there is little reasonable belief that the couple will ever get back together again. To demonstrate that this is indeed the true situation the couple must have been separated for one year and one day and if any children under 18 years are involved the divorce won't be granted unless the court is satisfied proper arrangements have been made for their welfare.
Despite all this, divorce remains one of the more traumatic events that can take place during a person’s life. The emotional effect of divorce is up there with losing a partner through death or being told by your doctor that you have developed a terminal illness and the amount of readjusting of your affairs that is required, is equally as daunting.
It is often the children who suffer the most
Although both partners suffer emotionally and financially when a divorce takes place, it is the children who suffer in silence and are often affected the most. This is because children are ideally born into a family situation that contains parents who show them care. All their early needs are looked after and there is little for them to do apart from grow and learn how to communicate. The family circle to them appears natural and lasting. Even in a family situation that appears dysfunctional to an outsider, to a child that is home, and that is where they feel they belong. Whatever happens within that intimate group is accepted by a child and no judgement is ever made concerning either the father or the mother. It is when the parents decide to separate that the children invariably start to feel loss. This feeling is often hidden but can show up in later years in a variety of ways. Often in anti-social behaviour or by a withdrawal into his or herself.
The family law court takes the welfare of the children very seriously
The Family Law Court takes the welfare of a divorcing couples children as being very serious. This is because in many cases the divorcing parents are so wrapped up in their own pain that they tend to ignore the effect such an upheaval is having on their offspring. When any person experiences a traumatic event in their lives nature immediately tends to put up protection barriers to assist that person alone. Intimate thoughts are all about self protection and because of this too little thought is extended to what others are feeling, particularly their children. It is when the divorce is so bitter that a tug of war begins to take place for the bringing up of the children that the court has to step in. Unfortunately one parent often feels deeply aggrieved at the loss of access to his or her children, usually his, as this means a further loss on top of suffering the traumatic effects of the divorce itself. This feeling of being victimised can become overwhelming and often ends in dramatic heartbreak. Besides witnessing a divorce between their parents the children are now exposed to one of their parents suffering a mental breakdown. This is far too much emotional strain to put on a young mind and all couples contemplating a divorce should think seriously about it before putting their own welfare first. Divorce is a very serious undertaking at the best of times but where children are involved it becomes more-so and the effect it has on the children should never be ignored by the warring couple.
Divorce can be made easy
If you are contemplating a divorce and no animosity exists between yourself and your spouse, you both recognise a mistake has been made and want to go different ways you can do so very cheaply and very easily, without lawyers. You can do so by downloading a Divorce Kit from the Family Law Court or the Federal Magistrates Court. If things are a little more complicated but you both agree it will turn out to be best for both parties if you divorce you can apply of mediation for a cost on only $750. All you need do in this case is to contact a mediation consultant who may be a lawyer or a psychologist. He or she will assist you both in drawing up a peaceful and reasonable settlement to finish off the marriage partnership. The Family Law Court is the final and most expensive option where divorces can cost upwards of $15,000. When taking this path you will be confronted with legal costs as well as having to appear in court. The Family Law Court is often the only option if you and your spouse can't agree how your combined debts and assets should be divided. When you go to the Family Law Court for assistance it will be the court that will make any decision on your behalf and that decision will be binding.